18 4 / 2012
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And focusing on your bad feelings makes them more important, so you’ll forget other important things in your life that might make you feel better in the long run, like doing your best, making a living, being a good friend, and, in a general way, living up to your values. Then there’s all the research showing that feelings of pain and disappointment cause you to think and act negatively, which causes more pain and disappointment. So spending too much time with your feelings is dangerous for your health. My advice is, fuck ‘em.
Instead, consider your goals, which is what you want to do after accepting what you can’t change. I know, you’ve got lots of feelings about what you can’t change and you’d prefer to ask why rather than accept what you consider as defeat. But here’s the advice that I think can be most helpful: fuck that shit. You’re never defeated if what’s stopping you is reality. Defeat is wasting your time complaining about what you can’t change or trying to control it when you know you can’t. Defeat is being an idiot about not giving up on your wishes. Victory is putting up with the pain and humiliation of reality and trying to make things better anyway.
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14 10 / 2010
since feeling is first | e.e. cummings
since feeling is first
who pays any attention
to the syntax of things
will never wholly kiss you;
wholly to be a fool
while Spring is in the world
my blood approves,
and kisses are better fate
than wisdom
lady i swear by all flowers. Don’t cry
—the best gesture of my brain is less than
your eyelids’ flutter which says
we are for each other: then
laugh, leaning back in my arms
for life’s not a paragraph
And death i think is no parenthesis
(via medusawolf)
31 7 / 2010
week 14: gyt
if you can rank the intensity of emotions where zero is how spock feels when looking at a radish and ten is what humbert humbert feels when lolita runs away with clare quilty, gyte would be a big fat twelve (or thirteen depending on the scale).
to go gyte is to temporarily lose all rational thought, to feel so strongly about something that you start to wig out like a norse berserker. love can cause the strongest of men to go gyte. hate holds the same power. but for my money, when some idiot coworker eats my applebees leftovers from the company fridge—that’ll get me from zero to gyte in ten seconds flat.
gytlin · a child, a brat
gyton · a small flag
gytrash · an apparition generally taking the form of an animal
gyttja · a rich, black sediment__
this is a post in the ragbag word summer series. for this series, i search for words in the oh ee dee that contain a randomly generated string of 3 letters and report my findings. it is a thrill ride.
